Hoping for something special? Try this prayer…

I reeeeeeally wish I would have posted this yesterday, because May 1st is St. Joseph the Worker day. St. Joseph has been very special to me for a long time, and it seems like every time I pray for his intercession and just have faith that things will work out–they do.

Today, I want to share one of my most special St. Joseph prayers. It’s a 30 day novena (meaning a prayer that you say each day for 30 days) that I usually say in March, since March 19th is his feast day. Every time I’ve said it, I’ve experienced remarkable and life-changing things (this year was DEFINITELY no exception, and I’ll tell you more about why in a few weeks!). This year, in recognition of St. Joseph the worker, I am doing this novena again. This prayer is known as an “unfailing prayer”–meaning that as long as you pray it faithfully and trust in it, you will be heard in a special way.

I hope that you will join me, and look forward to hearing from you when your prayers are answered. But enough talk. Here it is!:

Ever blessed and glorious Joseph, kind and loving father, and helpful friend of all in sorrow!  You are the good father and protector of orphans, the defender of the defenseless, the patron of those in need and sorrow.  Look kindly on my request.  My sins have drawn down on me the just displeasure of my God, and so I am surrounded with unhappiness.  To you, loving guardian of the Family of Nazareth, do I go for help and protection.

Listen, then, I beg you, with fatherly concern, to my earnest prayers, and obtain for me the favors I ask.

I ask it by the infinite mercy of the eternal Son of God, which moved Him to take our nature and to be born into this world of sorrow.

I ask it by the weariness and suffering you endured when you found no shelter at the inn of Bethlehem for the holy Virgin, nor a house where the Son of God could be born.   Then, being everywhere refused, you had to allow the Queen of Heaven to give birth to the world’s Redeemer in a cave.

I ask it by that painful torture you felt at the prophecy of holy Simeon, which declared the Child Jesus and His holy Mother future victims of our sins and of their great love for us.

I ask it through your sorrow and pain of soul when the angel declared to you that the life of the Child Jesus was sought by His enemies.  From their evil plan you had to flee with Him and His Blessed Mother to Egypt.  I ask it by all the suffering, weariness, and labors of that long and dangerous journey.

I ask it by all your care to protect the Sacred Child and His Immaculate Mother during your second journey, when you were ordered to return to your own country.  I ask it by your peaceful life in Nazareth where you met with so many joys and sorrows.

I ask it by your great distress when the adorable Child was lost to you and His Mother for three days.  I ask it by your joy at finding Him in the Temple, and by the comfort you found at Nazareth, while living in the company of the Child Jesus.  I ask it by the wonderful submission He showed in His obedience to you.

I ask it by the perfect love and conformity you showed in accepting the Divine order to depart from this life, and from the company of Jesus and Mary.  I ask it by the joy which filled your soul, when the Redeemer of the world, triumphant over death and hell, entered into the possession of His kingdom and led you into it with special honors.

I ask it through Mary’s glorious Assumption, and through that endless happiness you have with her in the presence of God.

O good father!  I beg you, by all your sufferings, sorrows, and joys, to hear me and obtain for me what I ask.

(make your request)

Obtain for all those who have asked my prayers everything that is useful to them in the plan of God.  Finally, my dear patron and father, be with me and all who are dear to me in our last moments, that we may eternally sing the praises of Jesus, Mary and Joseph.

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How to Conquer any Challenge

About a week ago, I was tumbling uncontrollably down a giant snow-packed mountain, attempting to do something I once thought I would never try to do again: I was skiing!

The last time I tried to ski was on an 8th grade class trip. That day, as I went haphazardly careening down our little North Dakota ski hill, I saw my history teacher laugh for the first–and only–time (Yes, I was that good!). Since then, I just figured skiing was one of the many things I was not cut out to do. I never played sports or did many physical things when I was younger, because I never thought I’d ever be good at them.

Last week, I went skiing simply because it’s something my husband loves to do. I expected that I might not have very much fun, but I vowed to give it an honest chance.

How did I do?

I will admit that on my first trip down the mountain, I fell several times (and I usually rolled several times after each fall!). After one of my last falls, I immediately got up and said two big words that wouldn’t really be appropriate to repeat here. And then, I shook myself off and kept going. I knew that getting frustrated and doubting my abilities would do nothing but make the day even harder for me. Not only would I not get any better at skiing, but I also would be miserable. So I pushed out all of the negative thoughts and did my best to concentrate on what I was doing, without thinking too much about it. I was determined to do my best and try to have fun, no matter how difficult that mountain was for me.

And you know what? Even though there was definitely a learning curve, both my husband and I were pleasantly surprised at the progress I made that day. I destroyed any doubt I used to have at my own abilities–because even though I by no means am ready for the Winter Olympics (and even though I still could get creamed in a race against some of the 8-year-old skiiers I saw that day), I proved to myself that I am capable of doing anything I set my mind to.

The same is true for you. The key is not letting any negative thoughts–yours or anyone else’s–get in the way of your success. Even though anything worth doing is usually hard, it is possible as long as you learn to become your own best ally. Don’t stand in your own way!

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Coming Very Soon: THE BOOK!!!

You probably have noticed that I haven’t posted in awhile. Part of that is because my husband and I were visiting our families for a couple of weeks over Christmas break. But the other reason for my lack of posts is because I am (finally!) just about to finish the book! After six years of research, writing, and rewriting (times ten!), I am just beginning the actual publishing process. Although I had hoped to have physical copies of the book when I go speak at a counselors’ conference in a few weeks, I am anticipating it taking just a little bit longer than that to be completed. Even though I could rush the process, after six years, I’d rather make sure that things are done right!

Over the next few days I’ll be doing some final proofreading on my manuscript; this is after having an amazing team of people assist me over the past couple of months, with both editing advice and feedback on the book’s content. I can honestly say that I feel great about what this project has turned into over time.

I want to sincerely thank every person who has helped me on this journey so far, from the very first contributors who took time to answer my “few” questions, to each person who has ever said an encouraging word about the work I am trying to do. I also want to thank those of you who read and follow my blog. It truly is because of all of you that I’ve been able to keep at this for six years.

Rest assured that I’ll keep you updated on the publishing process as everything unfolds. Thank you for sharing this wonderful journey with me!

Love, Hope, and Prayers,

Justine

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The simple thing you can do today to upcycle your life.

What’s the simplest thing you can do to upcycle your life today?

Right now, get out a piece of paper, and make a list of the top three people in your life who make you smile. These are people who are always there with an encouraging word, and who help you see the brighter side of things when you have a bad day. They love you for you. They don’t judge you.

When you’ve made your list, commit to spending some time with at least one of the people on it every single day–or at least talking to them on the phone for a few minutes. Positive relationships are probably the most important key to a fulfilled life.

Now, think about some people in your life who drain you of your energy. You don’t have to write down their names, but think about what it is they do that brings you down: Do they refuse to validate some of your feelings? Are they often negative? Do they try to convince you to do things you don’t want to do, or that are unhealthy for you?

It would be impossible to completely stop spending time with all people who grate on you a little bit; after all, you might work with them, live next to them, or even be related to them! But make it a point to replace some of your time with the people who drain you with time spent with the people on your list above. I guarantee that this one simple change will have some amazing results!

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The Simple Trick(s) to Making Friends…

In my last post I said I was going to address a common negative thought: You know, the one where you tell yourself nobody at school or work (or anywhere) likes you? Maybe you walk into the office in the morning and nobody smiles. Maybe you don’t have anyone to sit by in the dining hall at school. It doesn’t have to stay that way.

The simplest–and most effective–trick that I’ve learned in making friends has been to act a little more confident. Smile. Pretend you feel good about yourself, even if you don’t right away. Once you start pretending, you start feeling it, too. When a negative thought goes through your head that people don’t want to talk to you, remind yourself that you’re  a wonderful person with some pretty darn good things to say. If you don’t like the way you look and that’s what’s making you feel uncomfortable, go out and find some clothes you like for goodness sakes! I don’t care what you look like–there are clothes out there that will look amazing on you as long as you just try on a few things (Ask a fashion-savvy friend or family member to help you if you’re unsure). The biggest thing is to find things that make you feel comfortable, too.

Don’t be afraid to approach people and start up a conversation. Write up a list of conversation starters if you need to, like asking people what their thoughts are on the latest news headlines, what they’re looking most forward to doing next weekend, or what the best thing was that they ate for Thanksgiving dinner. The big thing is to UPCYCLE any of the negative thoughts that might start running through your mind. When you start to think something like, “They’re not smiling because they don’t like me,” upcycle your thoughts to something like, “They might have just had a bad morning” or “I don’t know them that well so I have no idea what they’re thinking.” Give yourself and the other person a chance to get to know one another other a little bit. People don’t often become best friends overnight.

If you find you’re still having trouble connecting with people, don’t sweat it. Some people just aren’t very nice or don’t have much in common with you. The big thing is to remember that you DESERVE to be treated well. No matter what anyone else says or does, you owe it to yourself to stay confident and try your best to have a positive attitude. If you really are having a tough time connecting with certain people at work or school, don’t give up because there are probably other people there that you haven’t had the chance to visit with very much yet. However, don’t limit your friend-finding to just work or school. The key is to get involved in things: Volunteer at your church, take some yoga classes at your local gym, or join a community organization. Find groups related to what you’re really interested in, and I bet it will only be a matter of time until you find some worthwhile people to spend your time with!

Now, my question for you: What are your tips for making new friends?

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America Recycles Day: The perfect time to start “upcycling!”

Today, November 15, is America Recycles Day. Along with all the products you might be recycling today, why not upcycle your life? If you’re not sure what upcycling means, it’s basically taking something that isn’t doing you any good (like an empty soda can, for example) and turning it into something useful (like a lantern!). Here at my blog I take the concept of upcycling and apply it to you, by helping you recognize counterproductive thoughts and behaviors and transform them in a way that helps you finally begin accomplishing your large and small goals. Check out my Upcycling page for a more in-depth explanation.

So how do you start? Today, pay attention to what your thoughts are throughout the day. Is there something negative you find yourself continually thinking? For example: “Nobody at work likes me,” “My life is going nowhere,” or “I hate my body.”

Once you’ve recognized at least one repeated negative thought, reframe it into something more positive, like “People at work will like me as long as I start developing a little more confidence in myself and start striking up a conversation with them every once in awhile.” Start seeing opportunities for positive change, rather than staying stuck in the same old negative patterns.

Whoa–that’s easier said than done, isn’t it?

Don’t worry–in the coming weeks, I’ll be featuring not only positive ways to counter some of your specific negative beliefs about yourself and your life, but also concrete steps you can take to start meeting your goals and creating a more productive, satisfying life.

Next week we’ll start tackling the first negative thought mentioned above: “Nobody at work/school/etc. likes me.”

I can’t wait to get started–let’s get “upcycling!”

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Commit to Connect

Today I want to challenge you to “upcycle” your relationships in an incredible way. It doesn’t matter if you’re single, dating, or married–there’s someone important in your life that you can reconnect with on another level.

Make the commitment to take at least five minutes to really check in and connect with your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, mom, dad, sibling, or friend. Take turns asking each other these three questions:

1. What’s the best thing that happened to you today?

2. What’s something you wish would have happened differently?

3. What are your hopes (or goals) for tomorrow?

You can  ask these questions while playing a quick game of UNO at the end of the day like I sometimes do with my husband, or by taking five minutes at the end of a meal. The key is to just keep consistently doing it. You might be surprised at what you learn about each other’s days that you wouldn’t otherwise have known!

What’s your favorite way to connect with your loved one? I’d love to hear all about it in the “Comments” section below!

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